Those bumperstickers were a hoot! Jake: sorry to hear that you are in such a challenging period of your marriage. Trying to use humor can be good, but sometimes it seems to backfire, as when your wife tried to figure out if what you said was said in "bitterness." I know that when the subject of sex comes up, my W really loses her sense of humor, so I have to stay away from it. It didn't use to be that way...we could joke about anything, but lately, it's only been open season on certain political figures ;^)
Good luck, keep the loving but gentle pressure on her and remember that you deserve to have a happy marriage as you define it, and I know your definition includes an active sex life with your W.
