What a lot of insight into yourself and into parts of me as well.
My mother has made my father's life miserable but he has stayed with her. She is much better now thank goodness but they don't have too much of a relationship. She isn't the only one at fault, they just neither one work on their R.
I look at my h who ran to an affair when I had the depression problem and think why do you want someone like that in your life. Then realize that is very judgemental. He has problems as well, or he wouldn't continually choose affairs with married women as his way of companionship.
Sorry for the hijack. I am a bit off balance this morning as CHL was here yesterday. Hadn't seen him in probably a month so that throws me off a bit. Not that he intended to be seen by me. I was sick and came home from work.
Anyway I think you are definitely on the right track. If he were to leave you, you would be just fine.
If I can make it alone, anyone can! Promise, and be happy.
Not that I think your relationship isn't headed entirely in the right direction, just that you will be fine either way it turns out.
Have a great weekend.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
