Situation: H & I have been doing pretty well, but I remain disappointed about somethings. He HAS to play race cars every Sunday. He works Saturdays, so Sundays would be our only whole days together. Thursday, August 18, I tell him that my mom and I want to have a Labor Day picnic on the Sunday before Labor Day. H makes a face and says, "Sunday is race day." I say, "I thought you were going to share some Sundays with me." Friday we go camping. We meet a couple of my friends. H doens't help me prepare/plan for the trip at all. We are driving to the campground, I try to have pleasant convo. w/h. He gives me one word answers to everything. The drive is 1 3/4 hours. We get there, he asks about the sleeping/tent arrangements. He makes a joke about having 2 women in his tent, I get offended, he gets mad that I get offended. He thinks that he should be able to joke around like this without me getting upset b/c he thinks that I should know he is kidding. I think it is just unnecessary and not loving. I want to feel like I am special to him!
He says he is done again; that he is tired of dealing with my insecurities. I say OK, let's D. 3 1/2 weeks go by without much convo. (Living in same house sleeping in sep bedrooms). Then, the previous post happens. We were talking. I tell him I'll give him more time to heal and be patient with him. I ask if he treats me like crap for 3 years if we would be even. He says he's not trying to retaliate.
At the campground, I left him a note asking how it is that he doesn't care about my feelings. He says that he doesn't think that I'll ever be a decent mother or wife to him. I ask him face to face if he cares, he says, "I don't care," and then pretended like he was a deaf person talking and made a mumbly I don't care and made fake sign language to go along with it.
Please tell me I am not crazy for expecting someone to treat me better than this. ???
