Debi! Hi! Believe me, I will not club you!!! I really need this!
Sunday we went to river to see a band. I had left him that card that I told you about a few weeks ago and wrote that I was sorry about last night, that he was right, and to call me when he woke up. I had left the house b/c I had a migraine all day on a beautiful sunny day, so as soon as I felt better, I wanted OUT! So, within 10 min. he called. I said I was going to meet gf and he could meet us. He asked if I wanted to go w/just her and I said no.
When he got there, he was surprisingly chipper. Ok, something worked! ?? Was it the note, the nap, the illusion of me going out w/o him?
Monday I went to Pittsburgh w/my sis and her fam. We shopped at IKEA and went to ride the little incline thingy with the boys. I went home and h & I went out to din. All was well.
Tuesday I went to climb and got home early. He had band practice. I fed us ice cream and we went to bed. Another good night.
Tonight I don't know what is going on. He said he might do din. w/friend, but I haven't heard from him. I may go to scrapbook store and/or hardware store. I am resuming the huge project of sanding our knotty pine living room walls and white-washing them. Anyone have any good suggestions for white-washign???
Yesterday I accidentally took his phone to work with me! He ended up coming up for lunch which went really well-just pleasant convo/chit-chat. He's been affectionate and he was huggy.
THE PATTERN...I still have this nagging urge to check up and see how dressed up he got to go out w/friends and compare it to when he is with me. I am def. driving myself bonkers. And, he has one his ring once since we've been back together. He cut himself twice on his ring finger making scars that made the ring harder to get on. He was waiting to see if one bump would shrink before getting it sized again. I have not said anything about it.
He has made a couple references regarding other women. Such as if he were single again, he'd use match.com. Or that there are more w than m in the world so m have more "opportunities." He told me (again) that some women have told him they like his crooked teeth. I don't know if he is testing me or what???
I totally acted as if while S-to the point of him thinking I didn't care. Maybe he's looking for assurance that I do care??? Also, he never believes me when I compliment him. I tell him he is hot or gorgeous, and that he really "takes care of me" in bed, etc., but he just rolls his eyes or harumphs me. I ask him why he doesn't believe me. He has always claimed to be modest. He doesnt' think he is good at much, which is so not true!!! I hope I don't sound phoney when I compliment him...I really do mean what I say to him. 'Cuz he REALLY makes me hot for him!!!
Prob. need to work more on the friendship b/c, as you know, I have a tendency to focus on the sex.
Today he sent me an email being mushy and asked if I wanted to go to a truckfest down the street from our house. I said sure, except I'll end up wanting to "pimp my ride" and don't have the means to do so!
Quote: I feel like when you show him that doing things with him NOW doesn't have to be a struggle of your wills, he will maybe begin to want to do other stuff with you. Don't pressure. Let him see you can do this!!! I know he loves you, how else could he stay and work on things with you? Stop courting those negative things! Speak the positve into your R. Speak his LL, be self-less for a bit and forget about it when he doesn't speak yours. You can't force him but you can change the way he reacts.
Good stuff Debi! I can hear your voice w/your accent telling me these things!
And, my good buddy Pam is reminding me every day to be PATIENT.
