Sat. night when I went to party, I accidentally took H's car key. And then, since it was raining and a pool party, I left my phone unattended for an extended pd. of time. Well, H called me 12 times w/the messages getting more and more escalated. I called him and offered to bring the key home. He said it was too late and said "I gotta go!" And hung up. I tried to call back, no answer. So, I left party early and put key on counter, took a shower, went to bed. H did not go out, and fell asleep on the couch.
He came to bed at about 4. In the morn. when I was in the bathroom, he went out to the garage. Soon after he came back in. We hugged, he said he was mad but getting over it, frustrated, & that he knew I dind't do it on purpose. I apologized, validated and told him I would check my phone at least hourly if in that kind of sit. again.
We didn't spend any time together this weekend until last night when we took my dad to din. H was really sore and tired, so we went to bed as soon as we got home.
Today he calls and says that he can't get the sat. off the weekend we were going to go camping. He was the one that didn't want to go labor day weekend b/c of other things going on, and suggested that weekend. well, he never checked the vaca calendar at work until today. He did get off for vegas though in November.
So, I ask if he could drive to PA after he's done working. He says that 5 hours driving time isn't worth it to be there for less than a day. I said that we could still do stuff on sun. afternoon. (Just b/c checkout time at campground is noonish, we could still stay in PA and come later.) He grumbles and says, "well, you'll get your camping trip." I said that the objective was to go with him too.
We just wrote each other...I am going to try to get my other friends to go on a diff. weekend. I told H that I know I could go without him, but already feel like we haven't done much this summer together and that I would miss him.
I talked to a gf, and she helped calm me down. I know that I REALLY REALLY need not get into the-if it were a race or a concert you wouldn't have waited to get off work, or you would drive a million miles, etc. grr... and the -you care about other stuff more than me. In my head I was starting to think that I would leave him and find someone who DOES want to be with me and would put in the effort.
