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When I was by myself, I didn't worry about how H felt about me. I wanted to be w/him, but I believed in myself and believed that I am attractive, worthy, and lovable. When I am around him, I get hung up on how HE feels about ME. Therefore, I feel bad about myself, b/c he thinks our M prob's are all my fault and that I have caused this (OK, so I did), and that he's not sure if I am worth keeping around or not. So, I beat myself up. I was forgiving myself and him while S. I was taking care of ME for ME.




So...I think Michele would ask "what was different about the time when you were feeling good?" It seems like you're attributing it to not being around h ... but are there other possibilities? were you getting more exercise? eating better? was it making you feel good to be around friends and family who also care about you? was it about doing something physically challenging? You can see where I'm going with this..

sage

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.