Hi Slowly,
Thanks for the reminder. However, I still have this prob.-when I am having these "emotions," they seem so REAL, so JUSTIFIED to me. I feel that I MUST stand up for myself. OK, so I'm a little hyper-vigilant. Maybe I should commit to the 24 hour rule AND the question rule: Will what I am about to say/do bring him closer or not?

BTW, I bought a couple ebooks. One is v. good and more reinforcement of what Michele says, and the other was a rip-off. They totally lied about the contents of the book, said it was guaranteed money back. Then they told me to read the fine print which was not mentioned by the money back guarantee! It said that if the ebook was bought on sale, it was NOT refundable! And, it said that they won't let the bank/cc company do a ?what's it called? You know when you dispute and the cc co. goes to the company and gets the money back. Anyhow, if anyone is interested in which to buy or not, let me know!

Last night was fine. I climbed some walls then came home while H was having band practice. He is resuming his band! We visited after and I was v. cheerful/smiley, etc. I wanted to , but he said that I had hurt him and he he couldn't !!! OOOOPSIE! He wasn't as snuggly, but I think that that is b/c his back has really been hurting the last couple days and he is going to go back to chiro. soon.

Tonight I want to do something exercise oriented. He said he may go for early ride, so he may not want to go hike/bike w/me later...but I MUST even if he doesn't, no??? This is trouble spot-if he doesn't want to, but then I'll want to be with him anyway, and not do what I need to do for me. I could walk dogs in my neighborhood, but I don't count that as "real" exercise-only half hour, no hills and rocks and stuff.

karen