Quote: Last night when I came to bed he was reading, I leaned over and asked if the book was really more interesting than me (yeah, I know, hinting again). He kind of laughed and said 'I think you better go to sleep'
So, heap... how do you feel when he does this? When my W was "cold" to me in the past, I would roll over and cry silently to myself. These days, I don't accept that coldness and I make her aware of how it makes me feel.
Quote: We aint gonna get anywhere with this until we can sit down and have a talk about why he acts this way, and I'm not doing that 'till I've done some reading and can figure out how to do it without intimidating him.
The SSM book is best if "sex and intimacy" is the main issue, but it's also useful in analyzing your existing R with your H. You will read about how he might be feeling. However, it seems that (like my W and I) you have *major* communication issues to deal with first. Intimidating your H may be impossible to avoid.
I have learned that it doesn't matter if my W likes me. I have also learned that I can't change my W or make her want to change. I can only work on myself and find ways to keep myself happy. I hope that you start this journey soon so that you can be happy again!
