First, let me say that I have never lived outside of my birth country (USA) and have never wanted to. I don't have any idea of how cultural differences affect a R. That being said, the basic elements in any R are the same... two people (man & woman, woman & woman, man & man). You and your H relate to each other as man and woman, so you have the same situation as most of us. Cultural differences should not be a HUGE obstacle to overcome in your R. Sure, the Finnish vs. American issues will be large when it comes to your children, and perhaps with social situations, but hopefully you and your H do not maintain that "national identity" while talking about your R and M and ML. Unless Finnish men do something extra hot while ML, you're just like the rest of us.
Quote: Last night he was reading in our bed while I got the kids to sleep, I went in and asked him if he wanted to do something. He said he had some stuff to do for the festival next week, and then asked if I wanted to watch something with him.
I asked, wouldn't you like to do 'something else'? (and as I said it, I realized it had been our euphamism way back when...at the time I thought it was cute, but maybe it was a warning sign that H didn't want to say sex or ML??)
Ahhh, letting H decide if it's the right time to ML. Is that a good thing? How about you be direct next time and skip the "hints" and such? Say, "honey I want to ML" and just move closer to him and see his reaction. If he is standoffish, tell him that those other things can wait. It DOES work.
