Quote: I am intrigued and bothered by the fact that your H is not even willing to give you a simple hug. However, I've been criticized in the past for "asking" for hugs (both my W and members here on the board have criticized me).
Point taken. I think that may be the case here as well. I don't think H would push me away if I just gave him a hug (I have done that occasionally in the past) but he won't respond either. If life in general has been going well, he'll initiate hugs occasionally, which are friendly.
Chris,
Thanks for your suggestion. I suspect my turning off the TV would be met with standoffishness...hmm, lost my train of thought, as I was typing, I saw a hedgehog walking along the patio next to our house, so we got D8 up to see it.
Back to where was I...standoffishness...yes. I think that I should probably keep up the 'small talk' for a while before I try that. H would definately feel 'cornered' and back off. Think I'll keep things 'happy' for a while longer.
Last nigh, H fell asleep on the couch with his head on my shoulder while we were watching TV. When we moved in here, H insisted on getting seperate chairs for sitting in front of the TV, but we moved things around for the party last week, and the couch is still in front of the TV (hmm, maybe he enjoys this???).
But then, when the show was over, he jumped up and ran to bed (with book and candy). He was rather grumpy today, did come out and play a game with all of us, but back to his picking at the kids (and me) for any little thing that didn't go his way.
He had calmed down later, we all went to sauna, though as usual H came down much later, and kept to himself.
We are able to talk about general things,especially right now since H is on vacation, it's summer, I'm home all the time, so there's a lot less tension (and more sun!!), but if I ask a question H doesn't feel like answering, I get silence. It doesn't always go completely unanswered, sometimes I'll get an answer in a day, week...but usually if it's something really important to me, I have to ask several times.
