I want to suggest that you NOT read any John Gray Mars & Venus garbage. Grey completely takes advantage of people who require "other-validation" to reinforce their skewed ideas to avoid true introspection. He belittles the strength of the human spirit.
There is a great number of people on this site, actively working through their problems by posting their own situations, and empathetically listening and responding to others. In my first week on this board, I made the mistake of taking advice from someone who was one of the least successful people on this board and it pushed my progress back a month. That blunder has made it harder for me to use new approaches. My advice is that you just keep posting, journaling and listening. Don't *do* anything yet until you learn to understand *who* where the advice is coming from. Just because a member has an old registration date, it doesn't mean they are more experienced. Take the advice here for what it it's worth...heck, be skeptical of my advice too.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
