If I get sick, I will receive 'sick pay' from the state. Trust me, don't try to compare the US and Finnish systems unless you've lived here for a while. I had a debit card before they were available in the US, we have joint accounts.
I know that my husband controlling the finances probably is an issue in our marriage, but not one to be addressed right now. First things first please. We need to be able to get comfortable with each other again.
I don't appreciate you questioning my skills as a mother. Whether I had one or ten children, each one would need me just the same. I have four wonderful children, all with very vivid imaginations, and they all enjoy each other's company. Anyone who've met them, on either side of the pond have commented on what a remarkable bunch they are.
If I 'mother' my husband, it is because that is what he has wanted. I have given him every oportunity since I became pregnant with my first child to treat me like a woman, and he has pushed it away. I do try to hug him in the morning, he stands like a ice cube and pulls away.
I think it's probably best that I wait till I have a chance to read the books and then decide if I will post about my experiences. I don't find this present exchange helpful, on the contrary, it's just giving me a headache (pretty ironic, eh?)
