Quote: 1. Getting (and reading) PM and TSSM....does he want to anything, etc. (we don't order too often, and always try to combine 'cause of shipping). Not sure what his reaction will be if he knows what I'm ordering, may get a bit defensive.
Get it at the libary.
Give us an ideal about finances, one thing that helped us was we each got so much allowance,per pay, that we could spend any way we wanted, and the other could not question it. Even if it is just $20.00. This took care of agruing over nickels and dimes.
Quote: 2. Be pleasant and friendly. in order for me to even consider dealing with any 'real' issues,
Get the audio version of MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS, play it in the car, and stop it every so often, and talk. The audio works best, cause it answers lots of questions, and stimulates talk, which will solve all your probs. Once you get talking.
Both of you have become polarized and neither can find they way back.
Quote: otherwise when I get home from work),
why are working with that many kids?
Quote: 3. Start a conversation about our lack of intimacy. This one is the hardest. First i have to find a time that he'll listen - previous attempts ar always met with 'Not right now' (and he refuses to set a time) or just making himself completely unavailable.
Give up on the imtimancy for now. He has to be comfortable, and until you solve the bigger issues, you are trying to push a rope.
Quote: I think I will wait 'till I've been able to read at least some of the books....His vacation starts next week, and I'm torn between using this as a good time to bring this up,
NO!!!!!! Don't ruin his vaction, this is a slow process, you have to be clever. I guy can be molded, but he can't know he is being molded.
Learn a whole lot more here, and diff websites, then apply what you learn in TINY little steps.
