Kathy, You really have your hands full honey. 4 young children is a challenge for anyone.
Being from different cultures doesn't help either. You are in a "strange" country and I'm sure don't have the support from your own family/friends/familiar places. We were discussing the strain that being from different cultures puts on relationships today in church. I know that alone is a stressor.
This board has helped me so much to deal with my own situation. Our sex life has taken a dive due to cronic illness - but the end result is the same no matter why/who started the problem. I just entered counseling and I am going to move forward with our without his help.
You can also purchase this book I am sure off of e-bay. You would send a moneyorder to an individual instead of a publisher. H wouldn't know if you had bought a cookbook or a SSM book if you don't tell him!
The book is a good one and I wish I could get H. to read it. Maybe one day he will.
