The problem with getting the books that way is I live in Finland. So it won't be at the local, or any library within a couple thousand miles radius , and they can't get it on interlibrary loan.

As all credit cards are in H's name (I'm not a citizen here and came here as a 'poor' student with no cards of my own all those years ago) He will notice eventually if I order it, which I have to, so it is just polite (and saves problems later) if I tell him I'm ordering something. It still may be I'm able to do it fairly indiscretely, and I may be worrying about nothing - for all I know he'll be relieved if I start reading them!!

I'm not really as worried as it sounds about hiding them, but I do have an added dimension in my sitch of cultural differences. It's difficult to describe, but there are definate differences in how our two cultures handle personal problems, and talk about them, so I have to find a way to do it that doesn't come across as though I'm 'forcing' the issue. I'm probably going to have to go slower and 'more quietly' than many of you can for this reason. I guess that's why I'm a little nervous about being 'found' with the books. He'll either take it as 'one of those American things' and a passing fad, or be intimidated that I feel the need to read them. Either way, it's likely, right now anyway, to get him to put up walls.