Hi Heapmom....sorry to hear about your situation, but as you can see you aren't alone :-)
There are a few of us women posting on here (as I'm sure you've seen) that also have LDH's. Mine is one of them...although we're working on it. One thing we discovered via counseling and you'll also read this in SSM is that men/women often let other things in life interfere with emotional/sexual intimacy with their partner. The other things in life take precendence and you're left sitting on the back burner...sucks doesn't it? My LDH finally admitted in one of our sessions that he always had something else on his mind...something else he had to do...to the point that he always physically exhausted himself, leaving nothing for me. I felt so unimportant to him...like I told him....I didn't feel I was even in his top 10 list of priorities...my son was up there, which of course was great, but I felt that even his household chores came before I did...and that's not a good thing.
Now for my next question....does he ever initiate or are you always left to do that? From your initial post I'm not quite sure...prehaps I'm just not fully awake yet (which is definitely possible with a 1yr old at home) but that area was a bit vague. It's sounding to me that there's quite a bit going on for both of you.
Can you give a bit more of a detail as to what you've tried, how he's responded....does he approach you etc.
Don't give up...there's always hope....and if you didn't have hope you wouldn't be here ;-)
