Hi Kathy, Welcome...and sorry that you're here. I found this BB to really help me express my feelings and get feedback from some very bright and wonderful people( and don't let Mike fool you). I can relate to your putting your energy into the kids while the intimacy in the marriage falls to the wayside; in my case, I did a lot of the damage that I am trying to correct now. It was very sad and painful to see that as my kids got bigger and I finally was able to turn toward my H he had little desire for me. The good news is that I have changed things around and am now enjoying a more connected relationship w H. We still have a ways to go so you'll be seeing a lot of me here. All my best, Journey
