Except for the drinking part it sound like us five years ago!
I don't see where this would be out of bounds for this bb. Its about improving all M's, not just for the ones that are registered here. However, does H have internet access? It might be more worth her while to visit directly.
Those times were certainly the breeding grounds for lots of anger and resentment on both sides and in D & H's sit, the drinking certainly compounds it all. Sounds like D is trying to drown his unhappiness and is well on his way to alcoholism if not there already.
I really don't know what to advise, but speaking from experience, it took CAW saying she given up on the M and was making arrangement to get out to me wake up and smell the coffee. I don't know if it would be enough tho to sober D up to do the same, but I have a feeling its gonna take something big to make him shake in his boots. The thing the may going for them is he may not want to lose what he has learn to take for granted in the last 20 years, but he has to think he has jeopardize it all before he will change.
I feel sorry for then both, but especially H. It puts her in a position of experience alot more pain before knowing if D will see the light again.
I'll wait for the rest before I state any more...
Shiny, I bet you're a fantastic teacher and makes the subjects you cover that much more fascinating. The enthusiasm you have no doubt must rub off on the students and makes them want to learn that much more.
