So I didn't make it outside...remembered some things that needed fixing on my course outlines and...well here I still am.
If the following is out of bounds or against BB policy, forgive me, but I thought I'd elicit help from my wise DBer's on behalf of my very good friends D and H.
I've spoken of them before. But here's more background.
H's parents died of cancer before she was a teen ...she was taken in by an abusive aunt and molesting cousin for a few years
She emancipated herself at 15 or so and shortly thereafter met D...motorcycle, danger, instant impassioned love. They have not spent a night apart (except when he works nights or one of them is in hospital) in nearly 20 years.
D's personality features many issues of control. He doesn't want H to work (jealousy), yet they have $ problems. There is never more than one working vehicle at a time, and they live 45 min out of town, leaving H stranded out there much of the time.
D does not do house work, animal care nor any cooking. His greatest complaint is that H doesn't feed him enough or properly. He also despises his job at a mill, he feels superior to his co-workers and there is A LOT of friction on the job.
In the past the two of them have dealt with abusive language on D's part (which cuts H to the quick) and also issues of entitlement, and the biggest problem of late: D's excessive drinking.
Two years ago, D and H were social drinkers like many of our pals. It was outrageous to consider trying to kill half a case of beer in one day/evening.
Well things have gotten considerably worse. He is drinking before and after work, I wouldn't be surprised if 12 beer is an appetizer these days.
H has to deal with D passing out on the couch, then him blaming her for not feeding him properly (the man will not even make himself cereal or a sandwhich).
In that groggy/drunk/sleepy state he has made very hurtful comments to her, including a threat to punch her in the nose.
...she was taken in by an abusive aunt and molesting cousin for a few years 
