I've read lots of threads in which the R is in the pits, but the PI aspect is just great. That was Cathy's sitch for quite some time...and just a bit ago she posted that her H had initiated a HUG for the first time in ? years?, yet their sex life is hot as usual!
For SURE I know that sex isn't everything. And as promised, here's some of what IS working:
There's a genuine lightness and comaderie between us
We make each other laugh all the time
I take great pride in CJ's intelligence and such and let him know about it (You should see us watching Jeopardy together ).
CJ is working, albeit part-time, but it's been great for him to get out into the work world and do well. And he IS doing well and liking the work.
We move through our days together like a well-oiled machine. He makes breadsticks, while I sautee the chicken, we chat about our days. It's very clear that what we have together WORKS.
Especially of late when our good couple friends are having a rough patch (financial and alcohol) we really appreciate how much we seem to be on the same page. And how much LESS tension there is in the house compared to before.
And just now, for instance...he called me from work. He calls to say hi, or what do you need from the grocery store, every day.
He just asked me if I was excited about picking up the car and I said "Hell yes! Too excited to clean the house!" (jokingly) and he said "So what? It's not like there's a leaking hole in the roof (another of our pals' problems) or three days of dishes piled up"
I said "Yeah but there's a tumble weed or two of cat fur in the living room..." and he said "Ah, so what!"
Gotta love the guy for his easy going attitude about a lot of things. He doesn't EXPECT me to do all the cleaning, or cooking or shopping, and appreciates it when I do. (well, the cooking in particular ).
Is it almost like if the PI thing were in place this M would be really, really fulfilling (almost wrote "perfect" but, duh, there's no such thing!). I want that, I really do.
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