I don't think it's itchy butt... I wonder if CJ has some control issues. Does he feel like the yard is HIS to do and you are controlling the situation? NOW I know it is frustrating and you are working your butt off, but... what if he thinks it's his yard... the man thing... he WANTS to do it, KNOWS he should do it, but doesn't do it.

Does it make him feel like a failure?

Ditto the sex?

Just wondering.

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.