Quote: Please tell me this trust stuff gets easier.
Yes. But not without work on your part. My H is wonderful about telling me what he's up to and keeping me involved--and I still worry. So realize that a huge component of this is your own crazymaking.
Distract yourself while he's out. Get your mind on something else. Bite your tongue and change the subject when you feel yourself getting out of hand. Don't expect it to happen overnight--as I said before, I used to drive him nuts.
Have you tried saying "I just need a hug," or "I just need a little reasure," to him before?? And then drop it. The idea is you want him to learn that giving you some reassurance calms you down. (And you want to teach that to yourself, too, so afterward make sure to act calmly.)
So it's been 14 years. Just means that now is the time to change. You owe it to yourself. Think of it as a bad habit you're trying to break, and nothing more stressful than that.
If you think you can...then you can. If you don't, then you've already stopped yourself.
Just means that now is the time to change. You owe it to yourself. Think of it as a bad habit you're trying to break, and nothing more stressful than that. 
