Sweetie, I've been exactly where you are now. Almost a year ago, my H had a very entrenched EA. We seperated briefly, and he had a brief PA with her.

When we got back together the first time, I used to literally get panic attacks when he would go out with friends. He's a bartender, so when he goes out, he's out all night. And I have to go to bed for work the next day.

What did I do? Begged. Pleaded. Cried. Called. Interrogated. Yelled. And he ran again a few months later. (Then I stumbled on DB--yay for me!)

So my point is, try to keep the panic under control in front of him.

I like the not calling idea.

Realize that it's healthy for both of you to go out and be around other people. You should, too--it'll do wonders for your PMA.

Something else that might be kind of fun...especially since your living together. Get a little more experimental, if you know what I mean. Maybe a little trip to the toy shop? Bet that would surprise him--he came home and you had a little "present" for the both of you. (I did something similar, and OMG, his reaction was awesome.) Or, maybe buy some new lingerie and let him find you sleeping in it when he comes home...

Also, try to find something to tell him every day that is great about him. I try to catch my H picking up, or when he does something that I find sweet, I make sure to let him know.

I also found that when I told him how sweet he was...he was suddenly even sweeter. Like when I do get all irrational--cranky in the morning, too insecure, whatever--I always make sure to thank him for being so kind and wonderful and understanding. If he didn't completely listen to me or wasn't totally understanding...it's amazing how much more considerate he is the next time.

[color:"purple"]Nevanna[/color]