Hello, I have been here just not posting as I navigate through the murkey waters of piecing my marriage back together.
Time for some honest truth here: I did not get my issues under controll before he moved back home and each day is a a struggle to not snoop, to have confidence, to lighten up to trust, to not be jealous. Little things set me off, like yesterday I noticed that he hired an extremely attractive girl at his work...now my mind starts all kind of crazy making. It has some to do with OW being so young, working for him for a time (although EA did not officialy start until after she quit) and the fact that all his friends are single guys. They go out after work a couple times a week and also play soccer and go surf too.
I am unsure of how to move on, what my goals should be and how to deal with all these fears that are just below the surface.
What to do about making one's own life while marriage is piecing and things are somewhat tense at home. I don't want to be his wife who stays at home with the kids while he plays. Sounds selfish I know.
I need to work through all these issues. Don't know where to start.
Thanks to all that listen and post I read your threads daily and try to learn from you. I just am doing what I know I should I need to go back to DR and read it again.
How should I add mystery without seeming fake or looking for jealousy...?
