It was an idea I worked on but never really got to put into practice because by the time I thought of it he was to the point where he was mostly avoiding me.
My guess is his affair had heated up and seeing me maybe he felt some guilt? That is all guessing on my part.
But, she had never lived with him and having an affair with him is a whole different ball of wax then living with him is!
But on the plus side I didn't figure she knew his quirks and likes and dislikes as well as I did.
I would guess sexually she probably knows him as well as I do.
But maybe not his habits of what he likes to do when stressed, some of the tv shows he likes to watch, although they may do a lot of that now, I am guessing they watch what she wants and not what he wants.
Some of his favorite meals or his work habits even. Which his work habits change drastically while he is having an affair to what they are when he is married.
According to her ex she had no interest in anything that interested him or his job.
Basically it would be focusing on the knowledge you have and putting positives in your interaction. It becomes a habit.
Does that help any?
Do you have any IM programs?
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
