My mom doesn't have any close friends either so I became her close friend. Rather unhealthy in a way, she treated me as a friend but also a child and I think that is why I have so much fear of people at times. I did not learn how to treat and be treated as an equal.
I almost never did anything without mom along. So I did not learn to stand on my own and do things on my own.
I think Betsey's answer and yours Pam is a good indication of why D doesn't have many friends. He is a great guy, but very shy and doesn't go out of his way to interact or give to other people. In our R I was always the person that did that, didn't mean I didn't also volunteer him. Just that he didn't usually do the volunteering!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
