Hi Pam,

I don't recall a thread by this name but that certainly doesn't mean there wasn't one.

PK is what we always called the house we bought. It is just the initials of the road it is on.

Yes, that was tough to deal with, even though my marriage had been over for a long time I don't know that I would have left it if I hadn't met D. The guilt came from the fact that I so strongly don't believe in divorce except maybe in extreme circumstances. Which has not been the case in either of my divorces. My first h wasn't a bad person he just had no idea how to work on a relationship and apparently what I told him I needed wasn't in a way he understood.

That is why I feel so strongly that D's marriage to J is doomed from the start. They will be building a R based on two divorces, starting from their affair.

Pam

"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned
so as to have the life that is waiting for us"