WB re-stated: Uhhhh, yes. We’ve already established that I WILL stay. So I’m just looking to improve the sitch as much as I possibly can. _________________
Ditto and good luck!
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WB celebrated: My W has been taken away and replaced with a pod person that looks and sounds just like her. _______________
Then why not say, "I'm really glad you've replaced my W because she wouldn't give BJs or do anal!"
Mike - victim of pod person visit and departure, hence my return to being a smarta$$
Quote: Mike - victim of pod person visit and departure, hence my return to being a smarta$$
LOL. I am imagining you being brainwashed into talking like a Hallmark card by having sex with your podwife. It would be an interesting variation on the Stepford Wives theme.
WB,
I think we are all freaked out at the thought that our current success is just an aberration. The only way out of this dilemma is to try to convince yourself that the change is somehow due to your actions ergo continued change is something you can effect.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
There is no way of knowing if the two of you have achieved permanent change. Actually, the second I typed the phrase "permanent change" the oxymoron was self evident. It's really a process. It could actually get better. She could ask to do you on a Tuesday morning or for a double dip on a Saturday night. If that happens, hey, have a good life and come and visit us sometime.
Maybe you should just count your blessings for the positive things that have occurred. And most of all, thank your wife. Buy her a flower. Make her breakfast Saturday morning.
Tony
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
The only way out of this dilemma is to try to convince yourself that the change is somehow due to your actions ergo continued change is something you can effect.
Mojo said "ergo".
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
I just wish I could solve everybody's sex problems in the form of a mathematical proof.
Given that:
1) Women with low drives don't want to have sex once a week.
2) WBs wife is having sex once a week.
3) WB is happy to be having sex once a week.
4) Sex drives don't magically change.
5) People try to please those they love by doing things they don't especially enjoy.
6) Sex drives can change.
I conclude that:
Since WB's wife is having sex once a week EITHER
she belongs to the group of people who love WB and therefore are willing to do things they don't particularly enjoy in order to please him.
OR
She no longer belongs to the group of people with low sex drives AND the change in her sex drive wasn't magical.
If I were to draw a Boolean diagram, WB would be found in the intersection of the set of (men whose wives have never tried to please them sexually) and the set of (men whose wives have very low sex drives) due to the vagaries of the human mind many men found in this intersection also belong to the set (men who would think it was a miracle if their wife had sex with them once a week) and of course this set can't possibly intersect with the set (men who are completely rational). Since I belong to the set (people who can't abide irrational thought) I don't want WB to be a member of a set of irrational thinkers.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Quote: Ooh baby! All of this math talk is making me hot.
Imagine some weird horny nerd you knew in high school. Imagine the mind of that nerd in the body of an attractive 39 year old woman with large breasts and blonde hair. Say hello to MegaMojo.
I once joked that if I was looking for HD men I'd join my local Robot Club. I neglected to mention that I actually want to join my local Robot Club. I asked my H for a robot kit for xmas and he just pretended like he didn't hear me because he doesn't want to believe he is married to someone as geeky as me. I actually used to have sexual fantasies starring Richard Feynman.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Seems to me that there is a correlation between being HD and being geeky. This isn't the first I've noticed it. Maybe it is our natural curiousity and always wanting to make a better mousetrap.
Oh Mojo. I'm not a mathlete myself, but I've always been fascinated with you people. My favorite room mates in college were engineers. And I too, have fantasies about Feynman, but they're only sexual in that we're both f*cking Marilyn Vos Savant at the same time.
