Quote: If that hadn’t already complicated things enough, then some of you start dropping bombs like, “I will no longer accept mercy/duty/unenthusiastic sex”, or, “Why would you even want to have sex with someone who doesn’t want to have sex with you?” So let’s see, I want frequent, enthusiastic sex, I want my W to be happy, I want to be honest with her, I don’t want mercy/duty/unenthusiastic sex, I don’t want to pressure W to do anything that she finds truly abhorrent, I want her to want me (or to satisfy PM, I want her to give the appearance of wanting me), … Unfortunately, those aren’t all compatible. And I haven’t even gotten into my reactions to her reactions yet.
Quote: The BJ isn’t the issue; the issue is getting her to do something that she really doesn’t want to do. If she chooses not to do whatever it is, I’m unhappy that isn’t doing it, and presumably, she’s at least somewhat unhappy in the knowledge that she’s letting me down in a area that I’ve told her is important to me. If, on the other hand, she chooses to do whatever it is, she’s unhappy because she’s having to do something that disgusts her, and I’m unhappy because I KNOW that I have put her into a position where she felt that she had to do something that she considered to be disgusting.
And this, my HD brethren of the Board, is why I am going BALD, and GREY, and am generally in a constant state of confusion, puzzlement and despair.
To be honest, this whole THING just makes me dizzy, and proves to me once again that God must REALLY have a twisted sense of humor...
