I am trying to understand the difference between my needs and my wants. Afterall, I am trying to avoid seeming like a needy person to her. So I gather from PM and these boards that needs are not a good thing. Wants are OK. So I want my wife to desire me. Thats great! But PM and several postings say that I make this clear to her, and if things don't eventually change, then I must leave her. This makes it sound like I have a NEED rather then a WANT. I want her to realize that I "Want" her desire rather then "Need" her desire, but if she can not produce the desire and then I leave, then don't I need her desire, and is this not a bad way to be? It just seems that no matter how I can present myself to her, it must look like I "Need" her desire. It's almost like I have to stop "wanting" to be desired.
