I haven't read PM, but it's on my short list. Still, I think it is a mistake to think that my NDW really needs sex, but just doesn't realize it. I'm trying to create a situation where she will want it more. Do I need sex? Well, apprently not, since I have survived my drought up to this point. Still, you don't NEED golf clubs ... unless you want to play golf. I do believe that sex would bring our relationship to new heights that cannot be reached without it. I like to read in the safe harbor of the SSM board, but occasionally I look at the DB postings, and it's like the aftermath of a battle. The wounded report spouses who have just walked away and had affairs. The poster usually begins history at the time of the affair. I'm convinced that most spouses who walk away and have affairs at least perceive that a need is not being met. And I think, there but for the grace of God go I.
