I have a little trouble with this needs versus want stuff. If I understand PM it is OK to have wants, but needs are a bad thing if we expect someone else to fill those needs. So "needing" desire from our spouse is a bad thing, I think. But then I read the book and I also see people on here post several times that we must make it clear to our spouses what our "wants" are, especially with regard to desire. But then the message also is that if they choose to not meet our want for desire, then they risk losing their marriage. So I am confused, if our LD spouses don't meet our "want" for them to desire us, and then we chose to leave because of this, is this not really a "need". "Needs" are bad but "Wants" are good. But if you are willing to terminate a marriage because a "want" is not being met, is that not really a "Need". Man, this is a confusing one to me.
