Ancient as a stone, strong as the sea

[nitaf]

Thanks for you insightful post.

[Phoenix_In_Bloom]

I just came across this in one of my old posts:

I said:

He said he doesn't want to be responsible to anyone, not obligated to call and say where he is, not to have to explain what he's doing.

He said in his mind, that's what marriage means.

I explained that our marriage will be how WE decide it.

So, he's told me that he has an important need to be independent and not tell me where he is or what he's doing.

At this point in my journey, I can trust that he's not out doing harm to me or to our relationship. He just needs to feel that he's his own person.


Well, looks like this is still important to him.

Good news is this weekened he's going to go camping.

I'm trying to get all my chores done so that I can play with my mom and have a much needed day to myself to play!

I've been suggesting things for him to take with him, offered to help him pack.

And I've showed him how excited I am for him.

I think he appreciates my attitude a lot.

So...go me...I need to keep it up.

Hugs all!

[Phoenix_In_Bloom]

Hiya Nitaf!

Thank you for visiting me thread!

What insight helped you?

Hugs!

[Underdog]

Wow, PIB! Did you handle that conversation well!

I didn't realize it but it really does boil down to a basic trust issue, doesn't it? I always felt closer if Mr. Wonderful called me from where he was... hey, I'm a girl, and the fact that a man calls to tell me he's thinking of me does not escape unnoticed.

But the fact that your H told you this is a boundary for him is a biggie. And you handled it with dignity and grace and decorum. I'm so proud of you for choosing to see this from this POV.

Heck, I appreciate your attitude a whole lot. GO YOU!

Betsey

[psluke]

Hey PIB,

I changed my mind why don't you come and see me now?

Then you can help me organize and please give me a neck and shoulder massage as they hurt so bad I feel like crying.

[Phoenix_In_Bloom]

Pam,

I'd love to!

Unfortunately, it must stay a fantasy for now.

My Cainer Cast:

You are embarking on an exciting adventure which is due to last for some while. You can sense this, which is why you feel edgy or apprehensive. You are not sure that you are ready for this particular undertaking. The cosmos, though, thinks that you are more than prepared for the challenge and it really does not intend to hang around while you equip yourself with more safety mechanisms. It is important to recognise this and to proceed with confidence... because, actually, the only thing that can cause you a real problem now is lack of faith in yourself. There's nothing wrong with wanting what you most sincerely want.




Hugs all!

[Phoenix_In_Bloom]

Hiya Peoples,

Just checking in briefly.

Not feeling good today.

Am home from work.

Thinking of y'all.

Hugs.

[nitaf]

feel better

Nitaf

[psluke]

Hi PIB,

Sorry to hear you aren't feeling well.

{{{{{{{{PIB}}}}}}}}

[Phoenix_In_Bloom]

Nitaf, Pam,

Thank you both for the visit and comfort.

I think I just have a minor cold...shivery, achey, fatigued.

Blech.

Poor me!

Hugs!