The next thread is when I started posting and reading your thread so I am almost current with you.
Wow is all I can say!
There were a lot of similiarities in our sitch's at times.
I now see where some of the advice you posted to me came from. Interesting to see what was behind it, makes it lots more understandable also. Or should I say it improves the sink in rate.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I have to tell you, I've been putting off re-reading my threads because I was concerned about the scabs being re-opened.
But knowing that you are reading them has helped me go back and re-read them...trying to look at them from your point of view.
So, thank you!!
Also, about going off Zoloft, I don't remember any issues other than the ones I posted about in my thread. I tried my best to post exactly what I was feeling and thinking...I figured even if my marriage failed, if nothing else, I'd show people what not to do. So, in the interest of being helpful, I tried to post EVERYHING!
Of course, I think I did take a longish hiatus from the BB once I was fired from my previous job. I remember a week of panic while trying to find a new job...and being afraid that my career on campus was over.
But as you know...I got this wonderful job where I am now! So, it all worked out and I came back to the board.
As for where my advice comes from. Well, from the first time I started reading your posts I felt such a close connection with you.
I wanted so badly to help you avoid all the mistakes I made.
I'm glad you have taken the time to read my threads and understand where my heart was in regard to the advice I gave you.
I spent my lunch and time in-between and the evening between laundry reading. I hope my talking about your threads to you hasn't reopened any scabs.
I am finding them very interesting and that you dealt with and felt a lot of the same emotions that I went through. It would have probably been helpful IF I had taken the time to do this sooner. I seem to always be behind. I have never read Ms. Sage's history either and I may do that next. I have a feeling it will take longer than yours!
Well, if you posted EVERYTHING you didn't have near the junk emotions that I did.
I really appreciate the info on the Zoloft. I am just nervous about going off of it. I know I didn't want to go on it but either it or the meditation and hard work or the combination thereof have really helped me emotionally. I feel much more stable, except once a month and I still don't know what to do about that problem.
Yes, I noticed you were gone for quit some time. I am so glad you got the job you have now it sounds sooo much better than the one you lost.
I have always appreciated you even though I didn't always follow your well meaning advice. It is like I had to make the mistakes myself to learn from them.
Thank you PIB, you are a wonderful, strong, compassionate lady or should I say Sorsha?
I don't think you did bad at all, you experimented and monitored and found what worked for you.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I loved it because it made me feel like I was a tough bodybuilder, even though I was using 1 pound weights!
In fact, now that Husband and I are doing the workout together, the highest weights he uses are 30 pounds.
The dumbbells can be found at Target, Wal-mart, or Play it again Sports. If you have a Play it again sports, definately get them from there. At Play-It-Again, the dumbells cost 50 cents for each pound. So, 2 one pound weights costs $1.00. At Walmart-Target it was $1.00 per pound. So, if you can get them cheap, do so!
I started with 1 pound weights, 3 pound, 5 pound and 6.6 pound and 10 pound.
IF you were to decide to give this a try, I'd recommend getting yourself the: 1 pound 3 pound 5 pound 8 pound 10 pound.
(Skip that 6.6 one...it's silly!) To start with, you can always just use no weights to begin with. Just focus on learning the exercises!
I loved having a physical challenge. It boosted my PMA, my self-esteem, and continues to be my best weapon against depression.
Oh, and as I re-read, I realize, I didn't post EVERYTHING like I thought.
Again, memory playing tricks on me.
Based on my reading, I'd have to say that what I did was try to post only the positives. Then when I was feeling down, I'd go and read other threads...and come back and post what I found as a way to inspire myself...make myself feel better.
And don't worry about the scabs. Surprisingly, the only ones that bothered me were the ones regarding me parents.
I am glad only the parents ones bothered you and that sitch has worked out as well.
I think it is easier to read your threads again the way you did it. In my case I did post everything and I DON'T go back and read my threads.
I will think about the Body for Life. Right now I have quit doing any exercise at all and I know I would probably feel better if I would start back up. Even if it is just my walking tapes.
I had felt so bad with the tooth and then just sick afterwards I sort of just let everything slide. Trying to bit by bit catch back up.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
