Quote: 9) If I ask him to do something, and he says no, along with some excuse/obstacle. Ignore the excuse/obstacle, recognize that he's trying to soften his no.
This one really hit me along with some of the others. But D does this and I STILL hadn't really realized it! That is why I don't always understand what he is really telling me.
I know none of this matters now for my R, but for some reason it seems important to cover some of this ground for myself.
"Men are from Mars..." has a really enlightening chapter on asking for what you want and how to handle not getting it and how men react to requests, etc.
Might be interesting reading, Pam.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
That is why I don't always understand what he is really telling me. 
