Poe, Thanks for the reply. I don't want to be a walk away spouse - I don't want the entire family in an uproar but sometimes I would like to konk him figuratively on the head.
We are about to become grandparents for the first time in about 4 weeks. This should be a happy time not a time filled with anger or being pissed off!
Quote: If it is not getting marriage working, then walk away.
As for the counselor I am not expecting her to save my marriage. My marriage is not going anywhere. What I want her to do is help me accept the fact that things have changed and my being upset over it is not going to help me, my husband, or my family in any shape, form or fashion. I am hoping to learn to cope better with the intervals in between the times when we do ML. If I can feel peace then I will feel like my counseling has been a huge success.
Quote: Wrong tact, you were putting him in a corner, now he has less excuses to not ML.
I was not trying to put him in a corner. I was trying to offer solutions to a barrier to our being more intimate with each other.
Quote: Now that just blows my mind, anal is okay but not toys.
I never said that I liked anal. I said that he did. It seems to be that sometimes/most of the time that is the only way he can MAINTAIN an erection for any lengh of time. If it was strictly a preference - it would not be my preference. As for a toys - we have never used them. He was toy enough for me. What I want is to feel him - not plastic or rubber or whatever they are made of. What I am wanting is the feel of his skin on mine.
