Pigtails, I feel your pain, too. My ex-h (we have been divorced 25 years) used to push my hands away too so I have been there, done that. I left him after 18 months of marriage.
It does leave one feeling unattractive or just unsexy. He had said for the last few years that my being overweight bothered him but I can tell you that when I was overweight we had a lot more sex than we do now. I really thought that when I lost my weight that he would be all over me like hot syrup. It didn't happen.
I have to keep reminding myself it is due to medication that the LD has arrived to stay - but I also have to acknowledge that the shelfish part has been there for years. I have begged him to read the SSM and he has refused.
I know that when I get really frustrated with himn I pull back emotionally - self defense I would say. Then he takes notice. I have invested alot of time and energy in trying to help him control his Crohns Disease and also in flat out "pampering" of him. I do this because I want to but occassionally I would like some of that pampering back.
He seems to think I have a never ending supply of emotional support.
I am going to check out your thread and get familiar with your situation.
Thanks for posting. It helps to know I am not alone.
