I think it sounds as though you are making it comfortable for him to come around. Can you identify the specific actions and/or words that are helping foster his initiating with you?
I have Laurie to thank for keeping a journal which helped me figure out what happened after I made a change and how long it took to see results. I still have that journal, and I know it works.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 
