I agree with totite on the ML issue. My H and I started our reconnection through Ml and I chose to maintain that connection and things went great with us when suddenly H backed off again and went into full gear with OW. I dunno what exactly happened but at least I know tht things can go well between us, we can improve our M and be happy if not for OW. SO I know in my heart that I am not the issue here, its him.
I think you're doing great. Take care...
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