It is interesting to see what you wrote about lying. That is my H to a "T." I never knew he lied, ever!! Until 2 yrs. ago. Now, I am stunned at the magnitude of his lies, big ones and little ones.
I am very upfront and don't feel the need to lie. I have tried really hard to make my H feel safe and not feel the need to lie to me. He admits being this way his whole life. His father use to tell him he was disappointed in him and that is all it took to want to seek everyones approval and thus lie.
H says that he is working on that but I wonder if he will ever be able to change that part of his personality.
