1. h calls a lot more. I am always 1st to end convo. I only return calls I don't initiate them.
2. h snooped and looked at my cell phone bill.
3. H asked to ride with me to Villanova to take S to football camp. While we were riding H bought up lhim not having good listening skills. I said, well that's ok and was ready to continue and he cut me off and said, I guess I need to work on that.
4.H still refers to me as his W. The landscaper was pruning some trees and asked H a question. I heard him say let me ask my W.
5. I had a little tiff with one of my male neighbors and talked about it with H. H said, the next time a man approaches you, you tell him you should talk with my H. I don't want anybody thinking you are alone or they can nit pick because I am not there???????????????
6.While S was away at Villanova , H called to ask if I wanted the lawn mowed. I said, Sure. He said, Saturday. He didn't show up Saturday and I paid someone to do it. He was dropping S off and said, who mowed the lawn and H said, I told mommy I would do it because I don't want her wasting her money . She is so hard to get in touch with? At one time he told me to find someone to mow the lawn cause he won't be doing it anymore.
7.I text him to have a lgood day and he made sure he called me and thanked me for that text. He called the next day and said, he had come by the previous day to get a copy of S's camp schedule but I wasn't home. I said, you should have called 1st.
8.He told me while we were at S's basketball game Tuesday that he got me a AAA membership for the next year. Is that a sign of future attachment?
9.No for 3 mos and then he text me with a proposition! I made him wait a week but I did give in. This is the 1st time he initiated a text message. We went back and forth for about 2 hrs. It was fun! Is the proposition a good thing or a bad thing? Is it ok to keep the going or let it go?
Ok now everything seems to be flowing along but yesterday H got wind that I had some fees on our Blockbuster membership and was irritated. I apologized and paid the fees.
Paying bills on time is a sort spot betweem me and him. I have made serious strides in this area as well as others. I know that he noticed the changes because we have a timeshare and paytment comes traight from his account and he use to bug me for the money a kweek before hand but he stopped because I always give it to him b4 due date now. It just seems as soonas we lmake some progress something happens to make him feel like she isn't changing.
Our other issue that goes hand in hand with the late bill paying is I use to lie about bills and other small stuff because I thought that I had to in order to stay in good standing with H. I have issues with acceptance and feeling like I am still likable with my shortcoming. I am currently working on this in IC.
My grandfather that raised me was very judgemental so I use to lie to not be judged and it carried over into my adulthood with H. H too is very judgemental and made me feel not good enuff so I would lie to be accpeted.
Is it ok to sit him down and explain why I did these things because he has a hard time beliving me because of the lies he has caught me in. I am working very hard to not lie and be open and honest with H.
Can I say something like can we make a pact that if I am honest about making a mistake you don't come down on me so harsh. I just want to be honest without being made to feel like an idiot for bad choice or an honest mistake.
I once opened his mail and he found out. He now thinks whenever a piece of mail is missing or doesn't come on time ,I did something and doesn't believe me when I say I had nothing to do with it.
I hate the fact that I feel like every mistaoke I make is going to be the 1 that makes him file for a divorce. I hate living under a microscope!
for 3 mos and then he text me with a proposition! I made him wait a week but I did give in. This is the 1st time he initiated a text message. We went back and forth for about 2 hrs. It was fun! Is the proposition a good thing or a bad thing? Is it ok to keep the 
