Reading PM (and other books) helps US because it gives us the tools to become stronger and better able to be our own person, which will ALWAYS help us, no matter what else happens. It also helps us to be able to find ways to state our desires and then maintain a positive attitude in the face of doubts, fears and rejection voiced by our partner. In the end, I think it gives us the best possible chance at a better R. But we won't get there by "filling them in" on how the R should be... we change ourSELVES, become more ourSELVES, and just that "simple" act will force the partner to re-evaluate themselves, and possibly grow. Or flee. But something...
