Quote "BTW I'm only 35..." Then you've potentially got ten more years of great sex than I've got.
I would not say that you're doomed because you have the advantage of the SSM and PM books, this forum and the excellent advice and encouragement you get. I spent 22 years from my wedding night onwards getting more and more gridlocked into my SSM but with no one I could talk to. Throughout the drought I never lost my HD but got nothing more than 3x per year mercy sex except when trying for a baby but even then there was not much fun in it. You have to stand up and be counted. My strategy now is to state what I need from my marriage and I have stated that it is 2x per week and I intend to keep pressing home the message until she hears it. I have had some success particularly with Micelle's "Just do it" but as the days go by from our last time (Thursday) my doubts start to creep in (with the little things she says) as to her commitment. She is a strong woman but if I want to stay with her and have a fulfilling love life then I must be stronger. All the best Chris - BTW you are a similar age to AtlDave as his handle used to be Dave36 SD - from self-soothing comes forth strength.
