Perhaps I should have written: is there anything in the book that says "before you apply any of the things in this book, make sure that you know how your spouse feels about your affair and proceed accordingly." I did not mean that I can resolve anything for her. I meant that I should know how she feels now, 1+ years later after the A was found out. Is it still an issue in her mind, or is it water under the bridge?
Quote: Now, having said that, to what degree has she dealt with the affair? Is it a common topic of conversation in your house? To what degree have YOU dealt with the affair?
I don't know how W has dealt with my A. We don't talk about it at all, and we haven't since about 4 months ago when W asked if I'm still talking to OW. I get the feeling that W wants to sweep it under the rug and bury it until she needs to have ammunition to attack me with over marital issues.
My W has control issues. I don't want to be controlled because then I feel like rebelling against her. Push and pull... where no one "wins." I guess I should read PM and shut up now.
