Not to hijack this thread or anything... 'cause I don't mean to... and I hope that this doesn't (my apologies to SuperDave if it does)... but... here goes. This related to Schnarch anyways.
For those whom have read PM... is there anything in the book that says "before you apply any of the things in this book, resolve how your spouse feels about your affair and proceed accordingly" ??
As I read most of these threads in the SSM section, I always ask myself similar questions, such as this: if the HD spouse had an A in the past, and now in the present HD spouse wants LD spouse to "wake up and give him some lovin'" and the LD spouse will never forget that HD spouse had an A, what hope is there to ever resolve things?
Yes, I'm asking this because I had an A. I never confirmed the PA to my W, just an EA. Now, I'm trying things from SSM and I want to read PM, but I'm wondering if I'm just wasting my time if my LDW's feelings about the A were never resolved. Huh.
Sorry for the tangent... now back to SuperDave's thread, already in progress...
