I recently addressed the "enthusiasm" issue with my H ( for us, it pertained more to displays of affection rather than sex). He doesn't have to feel what I feel, but when I initiate a hug or whatever, his response has to be one where I do not feel humiliated. He does not have to have the same desire at the same time, that is fusion, but he has to show me he is concerned about my feelings. You can usually tell when someone wants to give you a yank( not the good kind) or when there is true effort/concern involved. We seem to be getting past this issue and can have lighthearted convos about "real" hugs and such. J
