"I simply didn't like the way she appeared (unenthusiastic) to me and I had no business trying to figure out if her crappy LM was out of a lack of desire or general tiredness. Last night, I told her that she needs to appear enthusiastic and try to be more organic...... I need to ML about 2x a week with the appearence of enthusiasm and erotisicm to feel connected. 2x / week is meaningless unless the "enthusiasm" is there."
I'm certainly not going to knock you because you seem to have gotten results I'd love to have, but.... this stuff sounds nuts. It's not your business to figure out why your wife is unenthusiastic about LM with you? All you need from her is to "appear enthusiastic" (as opposed to actually having enthusiasm)? Now that you've told her this, won't you wonder if her enthusiasm is real or fake? Does it matter? When you write "2x / week is meaningless unless the "enthusiasm" is there", you imply that you don't care if she is having a good time or even wants to be there. Is that correct? Is that a legitimate PM message? Can you really feel connected with just the "appearance" of enthusiasm and eroticism? What do you mean by connected?
Don't mean to sound like a smartass (or a jackass!), I'm just trying to figure this PM thing out. I'm still slogging through the book, sporadically. I hope I'm misreading what you're saying. My wife has no interest in sex with me, and I'd love to know why. Foolish? If she suddenly started screwing me a couple times a week, and putting on pretty good show of it, it wouldn't be enough unless I thought the show was real. Misguided?
