So perhaps I should change tack and rather than declare my love for her I should focus on what I want such as 2x per week with enthusiasm and variety
Excellent. That is the right way to do it. When you finally de-couple yourself from the responses she gives you, it feel likes you are floating.
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and if she is unwilling to go there, imply that I will eventually stop loving her and find someone else.
At this point in your progress, this will sound like manipulation. I expressed a similar idea to my W but I expressed it like it was a struggle that I was dealing with..."i want so badly to feel "connected" to you but it's just so hard when we aren't together". Just a thought. Learn to distinguigh the "connection" feeling from the other feelings you get when ML. You will see that your desired frequency is probably less than you thought. I really wanted it every day. But when I elimnated sex for "soothing" and sex for "validation", I realized that 2x week was what I needed to keep the "connection" at a healthy level (on average).
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