I admire you for your courage to confront the om. I was thinking about it. But I did not do it for afraiding that he said to me that my W is the one who wanted him. My W is an adult. She is the one who consented to the R. Otherwise it won't happen. I thought it was no point to talk to the om. I also admire about your faith and your strong view about M. It is very hard to make decision like what you did.
In my state, there is no fault D. I feel really unfair. It makes people to have A very easily. I am S and move on with my life. The two kids are with me.