The place for support and some journaling to clear my head (TJ. Are you getting my private e-mails??).
The day didn't get much better, but I made the most of it. I think a lot of what bothered me was my kids being away, what's happening with them, and watching TKKC1 deal with this issue as well. What some of us are doing to our kids, no matter how much we try to compensate, still seems like a crime in my eyes. (Btw Jennifer, you planted a good seed for me last night to have my kids give W a nice gift when we get back from our vacation to thank W for all she did for them at the beach).
In any event, I got home early to pick up my car from being serviced and ran a few errands before heading off to RCIA--which I was really looking forward to. However, when I got home there was a message from my RCIA couple stating that one of them had fallen ill and they needed to cancel.
I decided that I would finalize the logistics of my trip next week with the kids, but do a little grocery shopping beforehand. While contemplating grilling a nice steak, I look towards my midsection and saw TKKC1's bronto burgers still sitting in my stomach--and then saw the sign for a lobster sale--a healthier choice! Bagging my recent bouts of angioedema and knowing that I had my Epipen at hand I got myself a nice 1 1/2 pounder and some fresh broccoli and made myself a nice dinner.
I then called the kids and had a very brief, but pleasant convo with W on some housekeeping matters. I can only assume her parents were nearby, which is why she was nice, but I'll take it.
However, as I got settled in to prepare my trip, a neighbor who is going through his own D (and appeared tio have been drowning his sorrows this evening) rang my bell to give me his latest update--which took an hour!!! So, I'll have to work on the trip a little later then planned.
Tryingtodigout There is no easy answer on how to handle separation. Every sitch is different. If you have read my threads since I started last October, my approach to this issue has made my head spin more than any other (not to be confused with W's spinning head a la Linda Blair ). DB Coaches insist that this should be a last resort (for the LBS) while you try other things and you should only leave when it becomes clear that apart from these other efforts, staying is moving you further away from your reconciliation goals. That's the point I have reached.
Unfortunately, the conditions of an Sep. can have a number of legal ramifications if you do not reconcile. So protecting yourself legally can create new conflicts that defeat some of the benefits of giving your S space. This is why I think those whose spouses have left actually have it easy. You just let them go and don't battle being forced out yourself.
As for me, I have a multi-tiered and flexible strategy as to how I will approach a separation and all these legal issues--and at all times will be mindful as to how this impacts my kids. This will not be easy, but financially, I have no choice.
and some journaling to clear my head (TJ. Are you getting my private e-mails??).
). DB Coaches insist that this should be a last resort (for the LBS) while you try other things and you should only leave when it becomes clear that apart from these other efforts, staying is moving you further away from your reconciliation goals. That's the point I have reached. 
